Wedding Days

I remember that moment, when you walked in to the room

I remember a feeling washing over I had never felt before

I remember my heart stopping as I looked at you

And you smiled551535_563599023658335_289099154_n

That was all I needed, all I would ever need

Your smile started my heart

Your smile washed away the world

Your smile took one step closer to forever

I love you my dear wife and always will

Looking Into the Past – Pictures of Our History

flip-book-birthday-invites-1Last year my family took a vacation. We managed to put together a plan and fight the world back enough to take a vacation. Crazy right?! I will say this though, we took it after vacation season had ended and the weather turned sour, but at least we can say we took a vacation. For an entire week we watched it rain and enjoyed being stuck inside somewhere besides our house. No pity necessary, we did get some sunshine and did manage to play at the beach a few times. All in all it was a huge success! Quick back step, as a reward for a great year prior I bought my wife a “nice” camera with our tax return money prior to our vacation. With that in mind, one can only imagine how many photos were taken over the course of a week.

Hundreds! No kidding, between my wife and I we took hundreds of photos.

Funny side story, my wife accidently deleted all of them. That’s when Super Husband managed to retrieve the data and save the day.

Today we are blessed with the access to a camera almost instantly no matter where we are or what time of the day it is. Between cameras, tablets, and cell phones almost nothing gets missed. My son’s last school performance was most likely recorded from 60 different angles. With two daughters strapped in to a double stroller my wife and sat in the back of the lunch room where the performance was being held. From where I sat I could see the stage without a problem; that was until the performance started. With the first note of the song a sea of arms went up with devices attached recording every second. It was like watching meerkats emerge from their hiding places in the ground. In front of me I watched as a lady leaned to the left because her phone’s view was blocked by a large tablet. I even found myself watching the whole performance through the screen of a tablet in front of me, I couldn’t see otherwise. I am no perfect person when it comes to my children, if I had the camera I would’ve most likely been at the back of the room, zooming in over the heads of those in front me, getting the perfect shot! And I am even willing to admit I have 300 hundred photos on my phone of my wife, son, and daughters.

Today I looked at those pictures. I was sitting in my car at lunch and had decided to flips though my photos. Picture by picture time was reversed and the days of a year ago played in front of my eyes. I watched as my daughter, only a year old and couldn’t speak barely a word, played at the playground. I watched as my son went from needing help holding a hammer to hit a nail; to needing no assistance at all for the whole assembly at our monthly Home Depot clinics. As I got closer to the pictures I took just the other day I reflected on growth of my children, reflected on the growth of our family, and took an honest look at my heart. Would you like to know what I found?

I am a blessed father and husband. I have three wonderful children that are happy, (most of the time) healthy, and smarter than I ever will be. I have a woman who showers me with her love and support every step I make (even the wrong ones).  Lastly I found that God has given me the last year to stretch, that’s right God asked very little of me last year, but tested my faith even more than the year before.

I encourage everyone when you lay your children down tonight, tell them good night and take mentally picture of your child’s face. Then pick up your cell phone and just flip through the photos.  Take that moment, that feeling, and honor God with praise.kid-sleeping

We all are the luckiest people alive; to be husbands and fathers.

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You’re a Dad now, Game over to Gaming?

kids-playing-video-gamesI am the Nintendo generation; I am the kid who started playing games in the arcades and grew with each new console. As I grew older Mario went from a handful of pixels to a well defined 3D character. I shot ducks will a hand gun and tried to shoot that stupid dog as it snickered at me when I missed. My parents weren’t gamers but they somehow they willingly supported my childhood addiction. I wasn’t defined by my games though; I played outside, played baseball, and the things of a normal kid. I can probably contribute that to the fact I had a little brother. It just was never the same when I had to take turns playing a game, which was always a good time to go outside and play. But gaming had an early foot hold in my life and it grew roots.

I can say that somehow I missed a lot of the so called cult classics that really demanded attention like the Final Fantasy and Zelda. Looking back now and understanding what those games meant to other people, I guess really was only a casual gamer. But there is no doubt about it though; I was a gamer as a child, birthday parties of gaming and all.

But now I am an adult, no, now I am a dad, a father, a provider for my wife and children… and yet also a gamer. Today’s gaming is a completely different animal; with games like Skyrim, Minecraft, and Destiny requiring a huge investments of time. Then when you add the online requirements, the only way to succeed and enjoy the success of a game is to invest large quantities of time and energy. For a while there I had started playing online competitively on Halo 4. For those who don’t know Halo is a first person shooter. It’s pretty basic, red team against blue team or everyone shoots everyone else. To say that I play well at this would be a pretty good accounting of my skill. On the average I finished top three of the standings every time, but this was in singles matches. That meant me against everyone else. Where the fun and entertainment value is playing games like Halo is team play. The entertainment value is so high that there are currently tournament that pay millions of dollars to the winning team. But in order to be part of that I would have to invest time and energy into playing with other people on a regular

So before I was married this was an easy call. In fact I would say gaming probably kept me out of trouble a time or two, instead of going out drinking I made the call to stay in and beat up on some people. But now that I am married and have children it’s not an easy call. During the week when I get home from work its dinner, then an hour with the kids before they are off to bed, and then its choice time. The choice is do I spend the small amount of time prior to bed with my wife or with random strangers spread across the country. The weekends bare no better option either. In our house we try to stray away from letting the kids watch too much violence, including daddy’s video games. So that in its self limits my available time. But even then it becomes a choice to play with the kids or play a video game.

Some of you are saying well that’s an easy choice, a father always picks his children. To that I say, ba hum bug. As a father I can honestly say that there were days that I choose the selfish option, that I choose to feed my own addiction rather than spend time with my children.

So where does that leave me now? Where does it leave a dad that wants only the best for his kids, only the best for his wife, and wants to play some video games too?

It leaves me making the right choices now. It leaves me knowing that sometimes I am going to have to give up my selfish wants for the needs of my family. My wife needs some time with her husband and my children need their father’s attention.  Have I given up on gaming, NO! I just made myself more aware of those around me.  Now I choose mostly single player games that I can pause or coming back to later and now when I need some multiplayer action, I ask my sons to step in and play.

So is becoming a parent game over for a gamer? No, but being a good father and strong husband is worth far more points and the prize is even more amazing.

The choice between a game and marriage is an easy one…. Choose right.


How do you make time for gaming? Did you give up gaming for family? What are games that can’t be played in your house? Comment and Share

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Have You Loved on You Wife Today?

untitledAs men I think a hard thing to do is to acknowledge our wives enough. This varies between each of us and the relationship we have with our wives, but in the end the question remains; do we notice and acknowledge our wives enough?

For me my wife needs to be acknowledged at least twice a week, or that’s what I think. Your wife may be different, and may have different circumstances then mine. My wonderful wife has chosen to be a stay at mother and has no boss or coworkers. Her work doesn’t have that feeling of being completed, shipped, or won. No, the work of a SAM (Stay at home Mom) gets repeated every day, the work is never ending, and the work comes with no raises. So my wife’s only source of praise, recognition, and appreciation is this guy. As a husband it is our responsibility to understand these facts, recognize them, and act on them.

But wait, what makes me and all four of my years of marriage so wise on the needs of marriage. In truth, it doesn’t. I did once get some great advice and I will share with you today. All of the above though was for me and is something that I have to really breakdown and institute in my marriage. I value my wife; but do I value her enough. My wife is my partner in life; but where does she fall in my priority list? When I post things on Facebook does my wife get first page or fourth page in small print?

So a pastor once shared an awesome story with our church, Clay Wills. He had a larger fellow stand in the rear of the room by the door and then pulled out a large crystal to show to the people present. This thing was huge, about the size of a soft ball, shiny as could be! He then handed to the first person and began explaining what it was. The story was about Rebecca Latimer Felton, the first woman Senator in American history. Carefully the preacher shared the story of Rebecca, how she became a senator, her role in history, and her service for 24 hours. As the story was explained and the details about the crystal were brought to life you could clearly see the change in how people held the crystal. You could watch as the people began to slowly hand the crystal off to the next person, doing everything within their power to ensure that no ill became of it. As the end of the story approached the crystal made it back to the hands of the pastor and he tossed it about with complete disregard to it worth as he began talking about its worth.

dasdaNever did he actually state that the crystal in his hand was the same that was on Rebecca Felton’s desk, we just assumed it was. With a fancy case and the big guard looking guy standing in the back why wouldn’t you assume that it was? So, each of us assumed the value of the paper weight as a prized possession without any true knowledge of what it was.

We all place value on things that are actually meaningless. But the question is what value do we place on the people in our lives? What value do we put on the relationships to mean the most to us?

I encourage every man to stop and ask yourself how much value you place on your wife.

My wife cleans my house, cooks my food, cares for my children, and honors me every day with her love. It should be the easiest thing to respond with gratitude, respect, and acknowledgement, but sometimes life rushes us so much we brush past the easy stuff.

So today when you see your wife, thank her. Remember she said yes to you once and she should be thanked for that every day.